Speaking to your child

I’m popping here just for a minute to share with you this magnificant lecture that I thought EVERY parent should watch and enjoy. It’s a shame I did not have access to it when my son was between 0 and 3. It would have been much easier for me to reject all the criticism that I was getting for talking or reading too much to him. This is such an important message which basically emphasises that you should grab every minute of those early years and enjoy them with a full heart.

Play people, play, play with your kids. It’s worth it!

You can find the lecture here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSNRtJtNHT4&feature=share

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When you are aware, the journey is over.

Note in Polish: Zachęcam gorąco do obejrzenia tego wykładu. Szczególnie rodziców dzieci w wieku 0 do 3 lat.

MyCake, Your Cake, Her Cake (2)

Do you remember my friend Dorota and her lovely cakes?

Amazing and delicious.

What a talent she has, hasn’t she?

For more cakes, visit Dorota’s Facebook site.

A Good Time

“There is only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on.” Leo Christopher

Dzień dobry 2017

Dzień dobry 2017! Hello 2017!

Happy New Year!

How has it started for you? We’re in Poland and we’re enjoying the REAL winter here. Just a few photographs today taken by me and my dear friend Dorota @MyCake. Dorota is in the pictures with my little boy. Go and visit her lovely Facebook site. She makes MAGIC.

2017, we’re more than ready to get to know you. :)

Onwards!

Freedom comes first

When my son was born many people were asking me about my wishes for him, about who I would like him to become, about who I would like him to be. As much as I like people to ask me questions, I disliked being asked about this one. It disagreed with my conviction that these little beings are separate beings and it is to freedom that we are bringing them up and that it is freedom that first and foremost we should allow them to experience. You see, our children are institutionalized from such an early age, their growth is formalized and lifestyle made formulaic. They need space and time that is free from our influences, and free from others. They need space and time where all that they hear is the chatter of their own minds. Uncluttered time, uncluttered from our wishes for them, however well-meaning they are.

At some stage I was really provoked by someone to answer this question: Who you would like your son to be? So I answered: I know that my ambition for my son is really my ambition for myself. If you hear me saying that I would like him to be a writer and a peace-maker, you know that this is really what I want for myself so I will be pushing myself to create the best sentences I can and pushing myself to learn the art of conflict-resolution, I will not be training my child in it. All that I need to do is to give him space for his own dreams and ambitions to emerge and flourish. Freedom comes first and our ambitions for our children can really lead us to understand what ambitions we have for ourselves.

So if they want to run, let them run.